At school everyone hated one thing in common. That was exams. A period of 12-14 years, where a student was most judged with the numbers obtained in exams. The one who scores more is the one who is valued more. Despite emphasis and preference given to other talents, still digits in exams stays at first. For instance, when a student is good at singing and scores low in exams, “concentrate in studies. Singing is not gona fetch you ranks. “This will be the advice given to the child. The pressure put on kids who appear for public exams is ruthless as if one cannot survive without those digits obtained in exams. Creating nightmares about college admissions, not getting a good job, no own house and car, no proper life partner and the most worst thing even a trespasser advising to study well and score more. The day results are announced is not a good day for all. For more than 75% of students it’s a day of disappointment. Added to these, gossip of friends and relatives, other parents boasting about the one who topped, parents bashing.. Why all these? Just because of the digits in exams?  The way a child is treated who scores less, pity at its best. The same strategy is followed in college. A grade is set and only with those a student is defined right from his fees to placements.  Everyone is aware that these exam scores alone cannot design one’s life. But it is still not handled properly. This is how digits rule one’s destiny at their teens.

Now the power of digits in adulthood. Greater is the digit of salary, greater is one’s value in the society. In today’s world people score more to earn more. Nightmares created in teens are reflected through digits of adulthood. Only on taking a deeper look the power of digits in one’s destiny is realized. Irony is, one is valued when one’s rank is in single digit and valued when the salary is in multiple digits. It is to be accepted that these play a vital role and are inevitable. But it’s necessary to understand, digits should be valued and, not digits alone should be valued.

People tend to make choices. It’s based on their likes and dislikes. When it’s bound on a like, the choice sounds to be the best for them. Whereas when it‘s bound on a dislike, the choice turns out to be the wrong one. Why such discrimination? Just because you prefer something, it doesn’t mean it’s the best and the rest is worst.

This kind of attitude and approach is common in today’s world. Every man has his own way of making choices and doing things. For instance, let’s take the food habits of a non-vegetarian. A non-vegetarian cuisine contains a wide range of recipes. Each dish consist a variety of ingredients. Chicken, Mutton, Fish, Prawns are some of the common non-vegetarian ingredients.

Two friends plan for a dinner and they go to a restaurant. They both start skimming the menu and call the waiter to order dishes. Unfortunately only Chicken and Vegetarian recipes were available.  One orders a vegetarian dish, while the other a chicken dish. The two men start conversing:

“hey dude.. Why did u go for chicken man? It’s the worst of all non-vegetarian dishes.. Your gona vomit for sure when we exit from here...”

“Ha why do you say that man? Chicken is the widely liked non-veg dish.. you can find specialized eat outs only for chicken and not for any other non-veg item”

“you silly fellow. Am sure your wasting bucks on chicken. You still have a choice. Cancel it and order something delicious”

“Delicious?? You mean to say that chicken has no taste?”

“You have a doubt? It’s the worst tasted”

“Enough.. I just wana eat what I want”

“hooo.. what you wana eat is the worst..”

The other man pushes hard his chair and leaves the restaurant. Two friends end up without dinner and also a rift in their relationship. What actually brought this spat? Was it difference of opinion or one’s choice and preference or one’s attitude on choice? Yes. It was one’s attitude on choice. This is the root cause to many problems. The attitude behind the choice is not “What I eat is right and what you eat wrong”.  But it’s “What I don’t eat is tasteless”. There lies a lot of difference between the meanings of these two phrases.  Just because you don’t do something or you don’t prefer something, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad. When you see people doing something that are out of your lifestyle, kindly don’t conclude it as wrong or bad choice or scope less. This may even sound discouraging and degrading them leading to broken relationships.  Stay confident and happy with your choice and preference but not declaring other’s as wrong.

If you don’t prefer an arts degree it doesn’t mean its scope less.

If a girl’s wedding in neighborhood is a love marriage, do stay with your lips stitched for no gossips. It’s her choice and life. Perhaps she will live more happily than your grand arranged marriage.

If you don’t like Sachin it doesn’t mean he is a poor cricketer.

And to all the developers, just because you belong to development, it doesn’t mean Testing is of low profile. Do remember for every defect we log on a Friday evening,  you will miss a Saturday. :p :p

So, people, kindly stop judging and concluding bad remarks for thing you don’t like and prefer. Remember. Your choice is someone’s dislike. The way you treat your dislike, the same way will be your like treated. Finally remember “Just Because you don’t eat Chicken it doesn’t mean it’s Tasteless”